Stop Talking & Start Attracting
Tapping into our feminine energy encourages women to "stop talking" in certain situations. It isn't about silencing yourself but about fostering deeper emotional intimacy and connection.
1. Emphasizing Feeling Over Words
Perspective: Talking too much can shift the focus to intellectualizing the relationship rather than creating an emotional connection. Instead of explaining, justifying, or overcommunicating … expressing feelings succinctly and authentically.
Example: Instead of saying, "I feel like you never prioritize me, and we need to talk about it," you might say, "I feel sad and unimportant when plans are canceled." That’s it … say nothing else, wait and see what happens … be surprised!
2. Creating Space for Your Partner
Perspective: Constant talking can fill the space that your partner needs to reflect, process, or open up. By stepping back and saying less, you allow the other person to step forward and engage more actively.
Tip: Let pauses happen in the conversation. This creates room for your partner to respond or share their thoughts.
3. Avoiding Over-explaining or Over-functioning
Perspective: Women sometimes try to "fix" relationship issues by explaining, convincing, or doing all the emotional work. Using feminine energy suggests that stepping back and being receptive rather than overly verbal can encourage a man to take initiative.
Example: If you're upset, instead of explaining in detail why, simply say, "I feel upset," and leave space for your partner to ask or respond.
4. Leaning Into Feminine Energy
Perspective: Feminine energy is more about being present, feeling, and connecting than about explaining or strategizing. By reducing the need to fill silences or control the conversation, you cultivate a softer, more inviting dynamic.
Tip: Focus on nonverbal cues, such as body language or eye contact, to communicate presence and openness.
5. Trusting the Relationship’s Flow
Perspective: Talking too much can stem from a desire to control the outcome or solve problems immediately. By "stopping talking," you demonstrate trust in the relationship and give it space to grow naturally.
When to Stop Talking
During arguments or tense moments when emotions are high.
When you feel the urge to over-explain your feelings or actions.
When you notice you're dominating the conversation.
To create space for your partner to engage, share, or respond.
Key Takeaways
The golden advice to "stop talking" is about shifting from over-explaining or intellectualizing to being more emotionally present, receptive, and authentic. It’s not about staying silent but about communicating in a way that fosters emotional connection and mutual effort. So, when you do talk … people listen … meaning “He Will Listen”, that’s what we want, right … to feel heard by our significant others! Lord knows we know exactly how it feels like to be ignored or discounted, almost everytime we speak … So, try this for awhile and see what happens…give it some time, remember he is used to you talking more…he’ll need sometime to adjust to the new you … don’t be surprised if you find him looking to you to speak when he expected you to dominate & overtalk the situation and you don’t … :)
