3 Quick Tips to Shift Your Vibe & Be More Attractive
1. Shift into Feminine Energy
Exercise: Practice the “Lean-Back” Technique
What to Do:
The next time you feel the urge to fix a situation, solve a problem, or initiate contact, pause. Take a deep breath and consciously “lean back.”
Focus on being present, relaxed, and enjoying your own space.
Trust that your man will naturally step forward when you create this emotional and energetic space.
Example: Instead of texting him multiple times to check in, allow him to reach out when he’s ready. Use that time to do something you love, like reading, exercising, or catching up with friends.
2. Use Feeling Messages
Exercise: Transform Criticism into Vulnerable Statements
What to Do: Practice replacing complaints or criticism with “I feel” statements. This communicates your emotions without blame, making it easier for your man to connect.
Example:
Instead of saying: “You never spend time with me anymore!”
Try: “I feel a little lonely and would love to spend more time with you. It makes me so happy when we’re together.”
This softens the tone and invites cooperation rather than defensiveness.
3. Stop Overfunctioning
Exercise: The “Do Less” Challenge
What to Do:
Identify areas where you might be overfunctioning (e.g., planning all the dates, managing household tasks, or initiating conversations).
Consciously pull back and let him take the lead. Trust that he will step up.
Example: Instead of planning the weekend, say, “I’d love for us to spend some time together. What do you think we should do?” Let him take charge.
